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What heals the wound of grief and loss?

April 26, 2022

Time does not heal all wounds as the dates, life milestones, and anniversaries consistently and reliably remind us every year.

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When we have lost a loved one, dates, life milestones, and anniversaries that we used to look forward to become days that we dread. On these days, the wound of loss that we have worked so hard to heal gets re-opened and we are thrust back into our memories and the “what ifs?” The dull ache of grief and sadness that we’ve learned to live our lives around transforms into the searing, sharp pain we felt the moment we learned that our loved one had passed. We are brought right back to the bottom of that cold dark hole we have painstakingly clawed ourselves out of, inch by inch.

Five years ago she hugged me for the last time.

He would’ve been 33 years old today.

Thanksgiving was his favorite holiday.

It’s been ten years today, shouldn’t I be over this already?

No. No you shouldn’t be over it. And the reality is you will never get over the loss of your loved one.

Time does not heal all wounds as the dates, life milestones, and anniversaries consistently and reliably remind us every year. What does heal the wound of grief and loss is learning to not fall as hard when the wound is re-opened. It’s learning to trust yourself to experience these reminders not as dread of the loss but as an opportunity to  keep your loved one alive in your mind.

Five years ago she hugged me for the last time. I’m so happy that I get to pass the nurturing and warmth I learned from her on to my children.

He would’ve been 33 years old today. He always started his birthday morning taking a walk, I’m going to go for a walk this morning.

Thanksgiving is his favorite holiday. Green bean casserole was his favorite Thanksgiving food and he always told me, “eat up, green beans will put hair on your chest.” I smile thinking about how much green bean casserole I would eat even though I didn’t like it.

It’s been ten years ago today. I know she would be so proud of who I’ve become and what I’ve accomplished in these last ten years.

Losing someone doesn’t have to be the end of your life too, and learning to be yourself in your new life without your loved one doesn’t have to be as miserable as it can feel.

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Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders resulting from multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, together with over 45 years of successful clinical application. The SE approach releases traumatic shock, which is key to transforming PTSD and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma. Trauma may begin as acute stress from a perceived life-threat or as the end product of cumulative stress. Both types of stress can seriously impair a person’s ability to function with resilience and ease. Excerpt taken from SETI

An Embodied approach to healing

Trauma may result from a wide variety of stressors such as accidents, invasive medical procedures, sexual or physical assault, emotional abuse, neglect, war, natural disasters, loss, birth trauma, or the corrosive stressors of ongoing fear and conflict. SE facilitates the completion of self-protective motor responses and the release of thwarted survival energy bound in the body, thus addressing the root cause of trauma symptoms. This is approached by gently guiding clients to develop increasing tolerance for difficult bodily sensations and suppressed emotion.


SE offers a framework to assess where a person is “stuck” in the fight, flight or freeze responses and provides clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states. It provides effective skills appropriate to a variety of healing professions including mental health, medicine, physical and occupational therapies, bodywork, addiction treatment, first response, education, and others— Excerpt taken from SETI.

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders resulting from multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, together with over 45 years of successful clinical application. The SE approach releases traumatic shock, which is key to transforming PTSD and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma. Trauma may begin as acute stress from a perceived life-threat or as the end product of cumulative stress. Both types of stress can seriously impair a person’s ability to function with resilience and ease. Excerpt taken from SETI

An Embodied approach to healing

Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute. 

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) is a complete treatment modality to heal trauma and attachment issues. SP welcomes the body as an integral source of information for processing past experiences relating to upsetting or traumatic events and developmental wounds. SP incorporates the physical and sensory experience, as well as thoughts and emotions, as part of the person’s complete experience of both the trauma itself and the process of healing. Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute.  


An Embodied approach to healing

SP seeks to restore a person’s ability to process information without being triggered by past experience. SP uses a three-phase treatment approach to gently guide the client through the therapeutic process – Safety and Stabilization, Processing, and Integration. The therapist must pay close attention to the client to ensure that they are not overwhelmed by the process while simultaneously engaging their own abilities and capacities for healing.

It is thought that SP strengthens instinctual capacities for survival and assists clients to re-instate or develop resources which were unavailable or missing at the time the trauma or wounding occurred. Once resources are developed and in place, the traumatic event can be processed with the aid of resources. SP is a well-developed approach with decades of success in the treatment of trauma and developmental wounds. — Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute. 

Excerpt taken from ACBS Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. 

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