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Understanding Depression and How to Take Care of Your Mental Health

October 5, 2024

October is here, and it brings with it National Depression and Mental Health Screening Month—a perfect time to check in on how we’re really doing. Mental health is something we all need to take care of, but sometimes, life gets overwhelming. Depression, in particular, can sneak up on us or someone we care about. This […]

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October is here, and it brings with it National Depression and Mental Health Screening Month—a perfect time to check in on how we’re really doing. Mental health is something we all need to take care of, but sometimes, life gets overwhelming. Depression, in particular, can sneak up on us or someone we care about. This month, I want to help you understand what depression looks like, how it can affect you, and most importantly, how you can take steps to feel better.

What Is Depression?

Depression is more than just a bad day or feeling sad because something didn’t go your way. It’s a real, medical condition that can affect how you think, feel, and act. It can make everything seem harder—even getting out of bed or talking to a friend. For some people, depression can come and go, but for others, it’s a longer struggle. Either way, it’s important to recognize it and know that help is available.

Symptoms of Depression

Depression can show up in a lot of different ways, and it’s not the same for everyone. Some common signs include:

  • Feeling sad, empty, or hopeless for more than a couple of weeks.
  • Losing interest in things you usually enjoy, like hobbies or socializing.
  • Changes in appetite—you might eat more or less than usual.
  • Sleep issues, such as insomnia or sleeping too much.
  • Feeling tired or having no energy, even when you’ve rested.
  • Feeling guilty or worthless, as if nothing you do is good enough.
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions.
  • Physical aches and pains with no clear cause.
  • Thoughts of death or suicide—If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 or text “HELLO” to 741741 to connect with someone who can help right now.

If any of these feel familiar to you, you’re not alone. Depression is one of the most common mental health issues, but there is so much hope and support out there.

How Depression Affects Life

Depression doesn’t just weigh down your emotions—it can spill over into every area of life. Relationships, work, and even physical health can suffer. Tasks that used to be easy can feel like mountains, and that can make you feel isolated or even frustrated with yourself. But remember, it’s not about willpower or just “snapping out of it.” Depression is a health condition, and like any health issue, it needs care and attention.

What Can You Do to Improve Mental Health?

Taking care of your mental health is a journey, but it starts with simple steps:

  1. Practice Self-Care: You’ve heard it before, but it really does help. Regular exercise, eating nutritious food, and getting enough sleep can boost your mood and energy levels. Start with baby steps—like taking a short walk or eating one healthy meal a day.
  2. Stay Connected: When you’re feeling low, it’s easy to pull away from people, but talking to a friend or family member can make a huge difference. They don’t have to solve anything—just listening helps.
  3. Try Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness, like deep breathing or meditation, can help quiet anxious thoughts and bring you back to the present moment. Even just a few minutes a day can help.
  4. Set Small Goals: Don’t overwhelm yourself with big to-do lists. Start with one thing at a time—something small that feels achievable. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how tiny it may seem.
  5. Seek Professional Help: Therapy, counseling, or talking with a healthcare provider can help you work through depression. Sometimes medication is needed, and that’s okay too. It’s about finding what works best for you.

Where to Get Help

If you think you or someone you love might be struggling with depression, reaching out to a professional is so important. Therapists, counselors, and even your regular doctor can help you figure out the next steps. There are also hotlines, community centers, and support groups that can offer guidance when you’re not sure where to start.

As part of Mental Health Screening Month, I’m also including a PHQ-9 Depression Screener below. It’s a simple way to check in with yourself and reflect on how you’ve been feeling. You can find the full screener on the National Institutes of Health (NIH) website here. Please note: this screener is not a diagnosis. It’s just a tool to help you compare your feelings to what others may experience. If you score high or feel concerned about your results, definitely reach out to a mental health professional for further guidance.

PHQ-9 Depression Screener

Final Thoughts

Remember, taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. If you’ve been feeling off or overwhelmed, this is your gentle reminder to slow down and check in with yourself. If something feels wrong, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. You deserve to feel good, and there’s no shame in asking for support.

If you want to talk more about mental wellness or if you’re curious about how to improve your well-being, feel free to connect with me. Together, we can figure out what steps make the most sense for you and how to move forward.

Here’s to a healthier, brighter future—one step at a time!

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Trauma may result from a wide variety of stressors such as accidents, invasive medical procedures, sexual or physical assault, emotional abuse, neglect, war, natural disasters, loss, birth trauma, or the corrosive stressors of ongoing fear and conflict. SE facilitates the completion of self-protective motor responses and the release of thwarted survival energy bound in the body, thus addressing the root cause of trauma symptoms. This is approached by gently guiding clients to develop increasing tolerance for difficult bodily sensations and suppressed emotion.


SE offers a framework to assess where a person is “stuck” in the fight, flight or freeze responses and provides clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states. It provides effective skills appropriate to a variety of healing professions including mental health, medicine, physical and occupational therapies, bodywork, addiction treatment, first response, education, and others— Excerpt taken from SETI.

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders resulting from multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, together with over 45 years of successful clinical application. The SE approach releases traumatic shock, which is key to transforming PTSD and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma. Trauma may begin as acute stress from a perceived life-threat or as the end product of cumulative stress. Both types of stress can seriously impair a person’s ability to function with resilience and ease. Excerpt taken from SETI

An Embodied approach to healing

Trauma may result from a wide variety of stressors such as accidents, invasive medical procedures, sexual or physical assault, emotional abuse, neglect, war, natural disasters, loss, birth trauma, or the corrosive stressors of ongoing fear and conflict. SE facilitates the completion of self-protective motor responses and the release of thwarted survival energy bound in the body, thus addressing the root cause of trauma symptoms. This is approached by gently guiding clients to develop increasing tolerance for difficult bodily sensations and suppressed emotion.


SE offers a framework to assess where a person is “stuck” in the fight, flight or freeze responses and provides clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states. It provides effective skills appropriate to a variety of healing professions including mental health, medicine, physical and occupational therapies, bodywork, addiction treatment, first response, education, and others— Excerpt taken from SETI.

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a body-oriented approach to the healing of trauma and other stress disorders resulting from multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, together with over 45 years of successful clinical application. The SE approach releases traumatic shock, which is key to transforming PTSD and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma. Trauma may begin as acute stress from a perceived life-threat or as the end product of cumulative stress. Both types of stress can seriously impair a person’s ability to function with resilience and ease. Excerpt taken from SETI

An Embodied approach to healing

Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute. 

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) is a complete treatment modality to heal trauma and attachment issues. SP welcomes the body as an integral source of information for processing past experiences relating to upsetting or traumatic events and developmental wounds. SP incorporates the physical and sensory experience, as well as thoughts and emotions, as part of the person’s complete experience of both the trauma itself and the process of healing. Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute.  


An Embodied approach to healing

SP seeks to restore a person’s ability to process information without being triggered by past experience. SP uses a three-phase treatment approach to gently guide the client through the therapeutic process – Safety and Stabilization, Processing, and Integration. The therapist must pay close attention to the client to ensure that they are not overwhelmed by the process while simultaneously engaging their own abilities and capacities for healing.

It is thought that SP strengthens instinctual capacities for survival and assists clients to re-instate or develop resources which were unavailable or missing at the time the trauma or wounding occurred. Once resources are developed and in place, the traumatic event can be processed with the aid of resources. SP is a well-developed approach with decades of success in the treatment of trauma and developmental wounds. — Excerpt taken from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute. 

Excerpt taken from ACBS Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. 

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a comprehensive multi-diagnostic, modularized behavioral intervention designed to treat individuals with severe mental disorders and out-of-control cognitive, emotional and behavioral patterns. It has been commonly viewed as a treatment for individuals meeting criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with chronic and high-risk suicidality, substance dependence or other disorders. However, over the years, data has emerged demonstrating that DBT is also effective for a wide range of other disorders and problems, most of which are associated with difficulties regulating emotions and associated cognitive and behavioral patterns. 

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As the name implies, dialectical philosophy is a critical underpinning of DBT. Dialectics is a method of logic that identifies the contradictions (antithesis) in a person's position (thesis) and overcomes them by finding the synthesis. Additionally, in DBT a client cannot be understood in isolation from his or her environment and the transactions that occur. Rather, the therapist emphasizes the transaction between the person and their environment both in the development and maintenance of any disorders. It is also assumed that there are multiple causes as opposed to a single factor affecting the client. And, DBT uses a framework that balances the treatment strategies of acceptance and change - the central dialectical tension in DBT. Therapists work to enhance the capability (skills) of their client as well as to develop the motivation to change. Maintaining that balance between acceptance and change with clients is crucial for both keeping a client in treatment and ensuring they are making progress towards their goals of creating a life worth living. — Taken from DBT-Linehan Board of Certification. (click to learn more)

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